WHY YOU SHOULDN'T BE IN A HURRY TO GET MARRIED.

Here are a few reasons why you should think twice when it comes to getting married earlier. No need to prevaricate, I would just go straight to the point.

1. It's a Life time Contract : When you say "marriage", you say "commitment". The great old book for Christians explains that a man should leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and they must become one flesh. Note it said "a man " not a young boy, meaning we are referring to mature minds because commitment in itself demands Maturity. And the commitment in marriage is to be for as long as life goes on. No expiry date.
While wedding is a once in a lifetime event, marriage is a life time experience - observe the difference.

2. Wrong priorities : You have to set your priorities right. It is foolish to think you want a perfect guy/lady for a husband / wife because PERFECT SPOUSES only exist in the grave, so if you're marrying just for what you can see outwardly(looks),  your priorities need re-assessments.

Secondly, It's one thing to have a phenomenal wedding and another thing to have a successful marriage because most often I see a lot of people prepare meticulously for their wedding than they do for a successful marriage.
Some others get married because friends are getting married too, while others get married just to fulfil extreme sexual desires - all are wrong reasons to be married.

3. Restrictions abound : Marriage can provide a great deal of stability in a relationship, the emotional closeness and all. It offers many delights but has it's own share of restrictions, there are lots of things you wouldn't do while you have a partner. You can think of them right?
Also, there are certain disadvantages when you get married too soon. 

4. There are responsibilities to shoulder : The idea of absolute commitment frightens many, but if you really love who you love, commitment won't be a burden to you after all True Love bears all things, endures all things. 

Before negotiating marriage, you should have a decent job that can take care of your essential needs including your wife's needs too. Little wonder some women won't want to marry a pauper, that's because no one would be responsible enough to walk down the aisle with  a lazy man who can't fend for himself let alone his new family.

   Young people change as they grow, their values, principles and way of life ; statistics reveal that those who marry too early are much likely to be depressed quickly and seek divorce. Do not rush into a marriage or soon you will have yourself rushing out too.
A few years spent living as a young, single youth can give you precious experience that will make you more mature and better qualified to be a suitable mate.

DRIVING BASICS 001 FOR NOVICES

SECTION 2 :  I believe you've read the first section and you know what's cooking already.
 
Let's survey the gear lever; you'll notice that on it are numbers, these numbers indicate your gear level, how fast you want to drive. Most cars have just five(5) gear levels and Reverse.

   Now the main deal :
Get in the car, seat comfortably on the driver's seat, get a feel of the gear stick/lever , rest your left foot on the clutch and your right foot on the accelerator

Always make sure your gear stick is in neutral before you start the ignition ; Reason is : If you put on the car without checking if the gear is in neutral, there's an 86% probability that it would move forward in a quick bump and that's not funny in reality.

While its in neutral, press hard on the clutch using your left foot and use your right foot to press the brake down while you turn on the ignition (I call this A-Safety-Start ). Reason is: It would keep you in control of the car in case it may want to move.

Pull the gear to gear one while still in the previous process, carefully release your leg from the brake and let it rest on the accelerator, now get the car crawling(moving gradually) by releasing your foot halfway on the clutch while pressing slightly with your right foot on the accelerator. Now the car is in motion

To move faster, put (a +1 or) more push on the accelerator , remember it's still going to move within the limits of gear level 1 .
Keep on like this while moving your steering wheel as you practice how to control or navigate the car.

To bring the car to a halt :
    Clutch down fully first,
     Using your right leg, push the brake down - The car stops.
Note: clutch down before you brake to avoid stalling the engine or throwing your self forward (forward sudden pull)
For the first few weeks, it's adviceable to ride using gear one.

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IT'S ALL ABOUT LOVE.

   It was a darkly lit night, the moon was asleep already, only the stars where sprinkled above. She was taking refuge from the unfriendly weather.
Quietly she sat in a corner of the small dank room close to the only small round hole in the wall, she looked through it and could only see some flickers of light in the valley below.

Fear got hold of her, she couldn't risk it again facing the world and its harsh realities, she stayed in, wishing and waiting for all to feel good.

    Regret kept her company sooner than later, it reminded her of her past with detailed images, deeply engrossed in self pity and hopelessness tears began to well in her eyes, she wished she hadn't done all she did, she wished she hadn't made those errors...
    
    She was unclad, bare and vulnerable, extremely beautiful but somewhat flawed ; Her Creator had carved her in perfection, she was a delectable epitome of a charm and femininity but she couldn't cope with her imperfections; Life hadn't being gentle and kind, so much she had to bear.

    In bitterness, she felt gross maltreatment , life truly hadn't been fair enough to her. Her eyes flooded with tears too long that she couldn't realise that someone was approaching, soft footsteps like a tiptoe...
Scared, she thought she had to run out of the other door into the balcony and out.

   Too late, He caught her just as fast as lightning before she could leave the room.
Not looking at the stranger's face, she fought for her freedom, she struggled and cried a river let go of me! She yelled but He held on to her firmly... She must have thought He would ravish her.

   Let go of me, I gave you a chance before and all I got was a mess of myself
Looking out, she could see the lights down the valley flickering, It seemed as though they beckoned on her, she badly needed to get away from this stranger. She kept fighting and hitting.

   He handled her with care, holding her firmly but gently, He knew she didn't know who He was, He knew she probably was traumatized, He sure knew she was bare and ashamed but He still held her in spite of herself.
  
  I won't hurt you and you never gave me a chance before, No! Not me.
She stopped for a second, the voice was serene, calm and as balm to her pains. His voice did the magic, it seduced her to stop fighting. She shut her eyes tightly as he turned her to himself, she was scared of the unknown.

   He brought her head to rest on his muscular chest, she just let him do it,  He wanted her to listen to His heartbeats... She sniffed quietly and hush!  His heartbeats spoke words to her, sweet immortal words that only two surreal hearts can comprehend.

    He took her face in his hands and stared intently into her brownish ash pupils, that sparkling hypnotic eyes of her, making her realise that Regret had starved to death when she no longer gave it attention and her past was over. Her present mattered most.
  
    Her full round lips danced to a smile as she inhaled His breathe, twas fresh and refreshing . Her heart sang as He pulled her into a warm embrace, she was lost in Him as she savoured this moment. Pulling off His winter coat He wrapped her with it.
  
    Then she realised that it was LOVE, love had caught her despite her self and He was here certainly to make her better and safer. He  lifted her off the wet floor and took her away to where she belonged, He knew she deserved to be a Princess because she was Strong in her weakness, and Beautiful but flawed•
Her tender, wounded heart bursted with great joy. 

  

DRIVING BASICS 001 FOR NOVICES.

   Nothing is really hard if you set your mind in it to learn, setting a car in motion is a skill as germane as learning how to do any other important things.
Now as I take you on an explicit theoretical ride, I want you to give your mind a free lift, and after learning the basics, you and I would know for sure that you can do it.

    I learnt how to drive a car before I clocked 18 and I can tell you that the first time you move that car, you would feel this excitement in you, you feel big, you feel like if I can drive a car, I can do anything good.

   Here,  are a few things worth considering before you begin your journey in the school of driving :
1. THE CAR : Your car must be sound, you sure won't enjoy learning if it has a fault,  so don't try learning with a grounded car, or an old rickety car.  I also advice you learn with a car having manual gear stick/lever.

2. THE ENVIRONMENT : It is very essential that you go to an open field or an open free-of-traffic road before you try anything out, Reason is: you probably don't know how to really control that car and you wouldn't want to run into anything yet by mistake, you wouldn't want to bash your car against a pole or wall.

3. YOUR CONFIDENCE : Let go of fear or anxiety and relax, if people can drive then you can! All it may take is Time and Practice
   That's why I have written this as explicitly as I can, just so you can do it right.

   I believe you are now ready to practice ;
PART ONE ; SURVEY :
 
First, get in the car, take a look at the foot area of the driver's seat, If it's a manual car, you will find out that it has three(3)pedals of nearly discrepant sizes.

To identify what each pedal is, do this; 

From Right: A B C to Left 

A : Accelerator 

B : Brake

C : Clutch

Here ends the first section of DRIVING BASICS 001, ssecond section proceeds soon.